Why do men have such a hard time trusting God? Or do they? Women  seem wired to trust a Father figure. Perhaps I feel that way as a result of my own personal experience with my Dad. He was always around and I was taught to run to him if ever there was a problem. Even now I’m blessed that I still can count on him. Then in my tweens and teens I got introduced to God. It seemed natural that I should go to Him, run to Him when there was a problem or if I had a need my earthly parents couldn’t solve.  Placing my “trust” in Him and in His promises seemed like a good idea and alternative and ev became a lifestyle.

In all fairness though, who has zero father wounds? Since no father parents perfectly its probably safe to say that we all have been hurt by our dads at least once. Perhaps he didn’t talk to us enough, or wasn’t always a safe place for us to share our weaknesses, strengths and insecurities. Nonetheless—in adulthood I still find that more women have found solace in God the Father-regardless of what their earthly father was or wasn’t. Men on the other hand–not so much. I asked a few  men why they have such a hard time Trusting God. Here’s what they had to say…

Mike, Chiropractor, Age 32
I think it may have some correlation to men needing to feel like providers. Men may have a hard time differentiating between letting go and putting faith in God, and sitting by being idle and doing nothing while waiting for God to do something for them. There’s something innate in men that makes them feel like they have to be self-reliant.

Todd, Video Editor, Age 37
Some men see trusting God as Him leading you to do something you don’t want to do. Men as leaders need to be willing to “not” know everything. “Not” control how everything will work out. “Not” be the head of everything, which again is a “catch 22” since we were created to have authority

James, Fitness Instructor, Age 40
Surrendering to God means opening up your heart and totally releasing control. That’s a big problem for people in general but moreso for us. In my own life I can remember a time of being afraid to openly worship, show emotion in church or profess my faith to people for fear that I would come across as being “soft”. As men that’s one thing that you always guard against, coming across as being “soft”.

Do you struggle with getting closer to God?